What do you dislike?

[Chutzpar]

I also dislike "feminists" who make it their job to make women un-sexy. Feminism is awesome(y'know equaling rights for women?), but if your telling my girlfriend she shouldn't wear cloths she asks me to pick out that are suppose to make me look at her and want her then get your dyke/jelous/bullshit/ out of fucking life. Cause your doing it wrong.

I dislike clueless privileged fucks feeling they need to erect ridiculous strawmen or mansplain things that they clearly know fuck all about.

I sincerely doubt that the feminists you talk about - if they even exist, that is - are actually trying to say "DON'T DRESS SEXILY", but the very fact that your girlfriend asked you to pick out clothes that would make you want her is a pretty significant alarm bell regarding women's sexual role; I'd imagine that any of these women who allegedly tried to talk to her about it were not in fact saying "DON'T DRESS SEXY OMG" but were instead asking her to assess her actions.

Women's sexual gratification or empowerment should be about the women themselves and not about how it pleases men. Everyone needs to understand this, but it's especially important for women, when we're essentially indoctrinated into believing this bullshit. The sexual role of women is often described as being exclusively about the gratification of a man - pick up a woman's magazine right now. How many sex advice columns deal with female orgasm, or masturbation, or any kind of gratification for women? Not many. It's mostly about how to please men - how to bring the man to orgasm, how to best give a blowjob... apart from having an alarmingly heterocentric view, it's also very sex-negative towards women.

That's not to say that a straight woman shouldn't want to please her boyfriend, but she should be just as aware of her own sexual needs, and at least acknowledge that the idea that she should dress provocatively to please a man is a symbol of male privilege.

I'm not saying can't do it, or that she shouldn't want to, but she needs to at least be aware of where that role comes from, and really, really think about whether she wants to do it because she wants to do it, or because it is an expected behaviour. These are behaviours that are very, very ingrained in modern society. The very existence of makeup attests to that.

I've tried to remain calm, but I have to point out that I'm close to tears because of how singularly angry that paragraph made me. Equating feminism to homosexuality to imply that both are wrong makes you an asshole, even ignoring the sexism.