If this is not the kind of thing I should talk about on this site, then please forgive me. It's just that this topic has been sitting on my chest for ages now and I would like to know what you guys think.
Throughout my life on the web, I met a lot of people and users who shaped my life. Some of them were delighted by my company and find it a pleasure to be around me. Other people, on the other hand, just want to be hateful to me regardless of their reasons and leave a negative impact on my life in their favor. I wouldn't be surprised if any of you guys ran into similar situations.
For a lot of the people I met, each one has a varying level of talent in certain areas (I'll use artistic talent for my example). A lot of people online I met are hardly good at drawing, but the vast bulk of them are hardly ever nasty in terms of attitude. As for other people I met, they might be able to draw at the level of a god, but the they treat others (including me) is anything but godlike (unless a spiteful god is taken into consideration).
For someone like me, as much as I like good artistic talent, I would rather be around someone who only draw stick figures and has a nice attitude towards me. Sure, I would like it if this person would have a little more artistic talent, but not everyone I met shares these two golden values I look out for. Before anyone brings it up, I know that there are plenty of talented people who claim that they are friendly and all that, but even they can have their own flaws, which leads to them looking for reasons to not like me.
I'm not sure if anyone would agree to this opinion, but I think that what it means to be a nice guy is to act kind and fair to everyone, even to some of the people you don't exactly like. Sure, it's okay to get upset and angry every now and then, but as long as it doesn't go as far as to one side resorting to acting hateful in retaliation, everything should be good.
Throughout my life on the web, I met a lot of people and users who shaped my life. Some of them were delighted by my company and find it a pleasure to be around me. Other people, on the other hand, just want to be hateful to me regardless of their reasons and leave a negative impact on my life in their favor. I wouldn't be surprised if any of you guys ran into similar situations.
For a lot of the people I met, each one has a varying level of talent in certain areas (I'll use artistic talent for my example). A lot of people online I met are hardly good at drawing, but the vast bulk of them are hardly ever nasty in terms of attitude. As for other people I met, they might be able to draw at the level of a god, but the they treat others (including me) is anything but godlike (unless a spiteful god is taken into consideration).
For someone like me, as much as I like good artistic talent, I would rather be around someone who only draw stick figures and has a nice attitude towards me. Sure, I would like it if this person would have a little more artistic talent, but not everyone I met shares these two golden values I look out for. Before anyone brings it up, I know that there are plenty of talented people who claim that they are friendly and all that, but even they can have their own flaws, which leads to them looking for reasons to not like me.
I'm not sure if anyone would agree to this opinion, but I think that what it means to be a nice guy is to act kind and fair to everyone, even to some of the people you don't exactly like. Sure, it's okay to get upset and angry every now and then, but as long as it doesn't go as far as to one side resorting to acting hateful in retaliation, everything should be good.
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